In episode 1, a quote from me that got picked up on Twitter got a fair number of retweets:
— Renee M. Symonds (@DatabaseDragons) September 14, 2016
While this is true, and I believe it (and the idea is not mine originally– I have no idea who to cite that first said it), there are some questions as to what is meant by a kinder academia:
— Beronda Montgomery (@BerondaM) September 15, 2016
Kind is not a synonym for nice. There are sharp distinctions between being nice and being kind. Nice is all surface. Kindness is depth. Nice is fluffy illusion. Kindness is a sturdy construction. Being kind sometimes requires us to abandon nice to speak the truth. Truth hurts, and kindness acknowledges this. Nice pretends that hurts are temporary, avoidable, and not to be mentioned. Kindness allows us our hurts and encourages us to learn and grow. With a bright smile and charming demeanor, nice can cover a mean-spirited view . Kindness can’t live with the harm that such meanness and hatred causes. Nice pretends to be a virtue; kindness actually is. Nice harms us more than it ever helps. I’ve started to focus on being kind rather than being nice.